True humility may not be what you think
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Started by WxFollower - Feb. 17, 2022, 4:53 p.m.

At this link is an interesting take on what is true humility:

https://medium.com/the-mission/your-humility-is-about-your-ego-and-its-holding-you-back-77ddd2bf3496

 

“‘True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.’

– C.S. Lewis”


“Our desire to avoid being seen as proud or arrogant has overwhelmed our desire to speak our truths or follow our highest potentials. To avoid the blow to our egos of being seen as proud or arrogant, we sacrifice the most precious callings we have. Our ‘humility’ has, ironically, been turned to the purpose of protecting egos invested primarily in the opinions of other people.”


“In other words, our desire to avoid being seen as egotistical is a profoundly egotistical one.”


“If you want to live humbly, stop worrying about the perceptions of others and focus on what you can find to be independently true and valuable. Consider the wisdom of others but ignore their attempts to manage you through your own ego.”


“Ironically, your single-minded, unilateral choice to act at the risk of being disliked is often the most humble choice you can make.“

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 wxfollower comments:

 So, in my words, I think the author is saying that worrying about popularity is egotistical and is thus not humble at all. Don't be afraid to say or do something if you genuinely feel you that can make a positive contribution to society even if it seems to go against the grain of common thinking, "normalcy", or society and is thus liable to make one less popular. Thinking about it some, the author (James L. Walpole) writing this article, itself, may be a good example of humility in his sense since it appears to go against the grain of common thinking.


 Any thoughts from others about this way of thinking about humility?

 

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By metmike - Feb. 17, 2022, 6:32 p.m.
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Larry,

Thanks so much for one of the best, positive posts ever here.

This is more than worthy of our "Post of the Week"


We are all in this together. 

Here is one of the most important of the  hundreds of things that I've learned the last 4 years here. We can read a great article like this or famous quotes/advice from others that demonstrate the mindset to make the world a better place.......and pretty much agree on all the points.

But why don't we all follow the advice every day?

 If it sounds/reads like something we think would improve us, why don't we immediately embrace it and incorporate it into our beings...if, with 100% certainty it would make us a better person?

What I have found personally is 3 things related to this.

1. If somebody else found it from THEIR search and YOU read it, the impact is only a fraction for YOU. THEIR mind was searching because THEY wanted to find this and was open to the message.

2. When you are the AUTHOR of something or responsible for it, including presenting it ....you take ownership in the message. 

3.  Most changes in people's mindset's/frame of minds are not like flipping a switch from off to on in their heads. No matter how powerful the message REPETITION is an absolute requirement for the message to gradually change them. Practicing that new type of thinking takes repetition because the cognitive bias and old way of thinking for years/decades is well entrenched in the subconscious. It take a CONSCIOUS EFFORT that must be repeated as many as hundreds to even thousands of times over the course of years to decades in many cases for it to cause a complete change and be automatic.

I know this mainly from spending so many hours, intentionally searching for great, inspirational messages. Every one of them was hand picked out of many choices.........read and contemplated each message before deciding to share it (#1/#2).

Then, doing it many hundreds of times for new messages and reading over the old messages many dozens of times, often passing them on again in different discussions to help others see the same things but have it repeated to me each time(repetition #3).

I honestly wasn't doing it to change metmike.............but that's exactly what happened. 

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